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Dealing With Tragedies (The 9/11 Tragedy)
September 11, 2001, marked yet another significant turning point in world history. Whatever innocence was left in the world was lost on that fateful day. On lesser numeric scales, equally heinous crimes are committed against humanity virtually every day of the year. What is happening in the world? It is difficult to explain. Somehow the perpetrators of the most evil and disgusting crimes have been stripped of the virtue of mercy. It would seem that their basic humanity is simply missing. The memory of those planes crashing into the Twin Towers, the Pentagon and the one that crashed into the Pennsylvanian field, will be etched into people's minds forever. For many of us it was like watching a Hollywood movie as it unfolded before us on television screens all around the world. We watched in stunned silence as we learned that the events were real and were happening in real time. In the blink of an eye, families can be thrown into turmoil when loved ones are lost or injured, often in the most tragic of circumstances. Relatives and friends are forced to relive the horror of these tragedies over and over again as anniversary dates come and go. The grief and sense of loss they feel is intense. Loving relatives and friends can only wonder in disbelief at why such tragedies occur. Praying for the souls of those who are tragically lost can help the healing process. But such process is never complete. I have searched my extensive personal library for some words that might help those who are grieving the loss of mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, friends and other loved ones. Eventually, I found a quote that I thought was appropriate. It was from a course I attended in 1990 by Bob Proctor, a renowned personal development coach. The course was called "You Were Born Rich." Here is the quote: "When you die, all your possessions become someone else's. But the person you are will always belong to you." It is impossible to make sense of tragedies, particularly when they involve very young people who have not had an opportunity to experience the joys of life. We seem to be living in a strange world where the harmful actions of a few evil-doers can destroy the lives of so many innocents. It is hard to accept that these things occur. "Cherish the memories of those you have loved and lost, They will never be forgotten by those who loved them most." May God bless you and those you love and have loved each and every day. Please share these thoughts with anybody suffering the loss of a loved one. [If you like this article and would like to use it on your own website or ezine you may do so ONLY if the article is not changed in any way and the final paragraph: "About the author", with all links intact, is included.] About the author: Gary Simpson is the author of eight books covering a diverse range of subjects such as self esteem, affirmations, self defense, finance and much more. His articles appear all over the web. Gary's email address is budo@iinet.net.au. Click here to go to his Motivation & Self Esteem for Success website where you can receive his "Zenspirational Thoughts" plus an immediate FREE copy of his highly acclaimed, life-changing e-book "The Power of Choice."
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